Top 5 beliefs to lose your boyfriend/girlfriend ///// Top 5 uverenja da izgubite svog momka/devojku

Month number 8, task 1

*pisala sam sve u ženskom rodu jer me je mrzelo da pišem duplo: momak/devojka, nju/njega. Naravno, ovo sve važi za oba pola. //////////// * I was writing in female gender, because I was tired to write everything in double: boyfriend/girlfriend, him/her... Of course, everything relates to both genders.

Ako imate momka, i želite da ga izgubite, ovo su uverenja koja će vam u tome pomoći. Ako pak nemate momka, i ne želite da ga nađete, opet se podsetite nekih od svojih uverenja koja vam u tome pomažu...

1. Biću potpuna tek kada nađem nekoga. Ako sama sa sobom nisi ok, i nisi ostvarena, ne postoji niko ko to može popuniti - osim tebe same. Tako samo možeš stvoriti još veću zavisnost od njega, a on dobija na negativnoj strani moći.

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If you have a boyfriend, and you want to lose him, these are the beliefs that will help you. If you, on the other hand, don`t have a boyfriend, and you don`t want to find him, it`s good to remind yourself of what is helping you in that....

1. I`ll be complete only when I find somebody. If you are not OK with yourself, and you are not self-fullfilled, there`s nobody who can complete you - but yourself. That way you could only get more addicted to him, more insecure, and he`ll get more of that negative side of power.

2. On tako NE SME da se ponaša. Ili: ja se ovako ponašam, znači mora i on tako. Epa, cvrc! Sigurno se svako od nas našao u situaciji da je očekivao recipročnost u odnosu sa dragom osobom, kad ono - međutim. Možda nije lepo da se tako ponaša, i bilo bi dobro da nam uzvrati istom merom, ali dešava se da ne bude sve po našim očekivanjima. Ono što možemo da uradimo u toj situaciji je da vidimo šta ćemo mi sa tim. Suočiti se, ukazati, ili nervirati se i čekati dan kada će taj obrazac u njegovom ponašanju krenuti da bude onakav kakav bi mi voleli.

3. Ako trebam da radim na tome da održim ljubav, onda ona nije prava. Kao i sve u životu, ni ljubav nije data sama od sebe. Barem ne kasnije. Super je kad smo zaljubljeni i kada je sve "cveće proleće". Ali, prava ljubav dolazi tek kasnije. Ona možda nije tako filmska kao zaljubljenost, ali je dugotrajna, prožimajuća i daje nam sigurnost i razumevanje koja nam treba kod partnera. Šta će vam više?!

4. Prošli momak/devojka me je povredio, sigurno će i ova/j. Pa bolje onda da se ne upuštam u vezu, jer samo tako mogu imati garanciju da me niko neće povrediti. A život mi je inače obećao da ću za sve imati garanciju, pa...

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2. He CAN NOT act like that. Or: I behave like this, so he MUST behave like that too. Well, no, honey, no! Sure eachof you have found yourself in the situation when you were expecting the reciprocity in the relationship with someone close to you, when it didn`t turn out like that. Maybe it`s not nice of him to act like that, and it would be good that he gives you the same in return, but not everything is happening according to your expectations. The thing you can do is to decide what will YOU do with that. Face it, tell him and show him! Or get disappointed and enraged, and wait the day when he`ll finally start behaving completely the way you would like to. Maybe you`ll live to see that day :)

3. If I have to work on keeping the love, that it`s not the real one. Like everything else in life, love is also not just given. At least not later. It`s great when you are in love and everything is all "hearts and flowers". However, true love comes a bit later. It`s maybe not as movie-like as a crush, but it`s longlasting, fullfilling and it gives you the security and understanding that you need from a partner. What else do you need?

4. My ex-boyfriend hurt me, so this one will sure do the same. So, it`s better not to involve in any relationship, because only then I`ll have a guarantee that nobody will hurt me. Because life promised me guarantees for everything, so....

5. Kad se udam/oženim, ode moja sloboda. Oduvek sam se divila bračnim parovima koji i dalje ponekad izađu, ili npr. još sa malom bebom putuju. Mnogo smo mi današnji mladi razmaženi, sebični i često nerealni. I pravimo od normalnih stvari bauka. Zaljubi se, udaj se, rađaj, uživaj. Ako osećaš da ti je možda vreme, nemoj produbljivati analizama i stvarati nove strahove - just do it! Tako samo postoji šansa da shvatiš ovo:

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6. When I get married, there goes my freedom. I`ve always admired marriage couples who still like to go out sometimes, to travel with the baby, etc. I mean, we young people of today, are in a way spoiled, selfish and often not real. We tend to make issues from the smallest things. Fall in love, get married, give a birth, enjoy. If you feel that it`s time to do it, and that you want it, don`t over-analyze it and make new fears - just do it! That way there`s a chance to realize this:

A i ako ne uspe, Bože moj.. Znaćeš da si probala...

A ako ipak želite da doživite vrhunac ljubavi, i ne bojite se toga, težite ka ovome:

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And if it doesn`t work out, it`s ok.. You`ll know that you have tried...

And if you want to live to the peak of love, don`t be afraid. Just aim to this: